Pregnancy Loss & Miscarriage Therapy in Massachusetts and Rhode Island
There is no timeline for grieving a pregnancy you wanted
Pregnancy loss can change the way you experience your body, pregnancy, relationships, and even your sense of safety in the world.
Whether your loss happened recently or years ago, early in pregnancy or later, your experience matters.
You don’t have to minimize your grief because someone tells you that you “weren’t that far along.”
You don’t have to be okay because you can try again.
And another pregnancy doesn’t replace the pregnancy you lost.
I’m Ashley Luongo, LMHC, a therapist specializing in pregnancy loss, infertility, pregnancy after loss, and perinatal mental health. I provide pregnancy loss counseling for adults in Massachusetts and Rhode Island.
Pregnancy Loss Can Be Grief and Trauma
After miscarriage or pregnancy loss, you may experience grief alongside anxiety, intrusive memories, anger, guilt, numbness, or fear.
You may find yourself thinking:
Was there something I could have done differently?
Why did my body fail me?
Why does everyone else seem to have moved on?
Shouldn’t I be doing better by now?
What if this happens again?
Medical appointments, ultrasounds, bathrooms, hospitals, pregnancy announcements, due dates, and seemingly unrelated experiences can suddenly become reminders of what happened.
Pregnancy loss therapy gives you somewhere to talk about those experiences without having to make your grief smaller or easier for someone else to understand.
Therapy After Miscarriage or Pregnancy Loss
Counseling after pregnancy loss may include support around:
- Miscarriage and pregnancy loss grief
- Traumatic medical experiences
- Anxiety about trying to conceive again
- Pregnancy after loss
- Guilt and self-blame
- Anger toward your body
- Relationship changes after loss
- Difficult interactions with friends or family
- Pregnancy announcements
- Returning to fertility treatment
- Due dates and anniversaries
- Feeling left behind while others move forward
There isn’t one correct way to grieve a pregnancy.
When Other People Don't Understand Your Loss
Pregnancy loss can be an especially isolating form of grief.
Other people may not have known you were pregnant. They may avoid talking about what happened because they don’t know what to say. Or they may try to comfort you with statements that unintentionally minimize your loss.
Therapy gives you a place where your grief doesn’t have to be justified.
EMDR for Traumatic Pregnancy Loss
Sometimes pregnancy loss involves experiences that feel traumatic in addition to the grief itself.
You may continue to replay an ultrasound, emergency room visit, procedure, conversation with a medical provider, or the moment you learned the pregnancy had ended.
When appropriate, EMDR therapy can be incorporated into pregnancy loss counseling to help process aspects of the experience that continue to feel distressing.
Trying to Conceive After Pregnancy Loss
Deciding to try again can bring hope and fear at the same time.
You may desperately want another pregnancy while also being terrified of experiencing another loss.
If you become pregnant again, you may discover that reaching the next milestone doesn’t automatically make the anxiety disappear.
Specialized pregnancy after loss therapy can help you navigate this next chapter while continuing to make space for your grief.
You Don't Have to “Move On”
The goal of pregnancy loss therapy isn’t to forget your pregnancy or reach a point where it no longer matters.
Instead, we can work toward helping you carry what happened in a way that feels less consuming.
Your loss can remain part of your story without having to control the chapters that come next.
Pregnancy Loss Counseling in MA & RI
I provide pregnancy loss and miscarriage counseling to adults in Massachusetts and Rhode Island, including virtual therapy and in-person services in Franklin, Massachusetts.
If you’re grieving a miscarriage or pregnancy loss—or realizing that an earlier loss continues to affect you—support is available.